Foster Parenting: A Journey of Growth, Compassion, and Rediscovering the True Meaning of Family: Stories from a Foster Dad's Heart
Dr. Steven Gonzalez, PhD, LBA, BABC-D, LCDC, is a top Addiction Counselor and Behavioral Analyst in San Antonio, TX. With a passion for his field and an unwavering commitment to his specialty, Dr. Gonzalez is an expert in changing the lives of their patients for the better. Through his designated cause and expertise in... more
As an addictions counselor/behavior analyst and foster dad, it was important for me to step away from my professional role and simply enjoy being a dad. This was a key part of my personal growth as a person and a father.
Before becoming a foster dad, I had spent many years working as a behavior analyst and addiction counselor. I was used to being in a professional relationship role and providing guidance and support to others. But when my daughter came into my life, I quickly realized that being a foster dad was different.
As a foster dad, I had to learn to let go of that need for control and simply be present with my daughter. I had to learn to trust my instincts and to be comfortable with the unknown. At first, this was a difficult transition for me. I was used to being in charge and making decisions, but as a dad, I had to learn to collaborate and compromise.
One of the things that helped me make this shift was mindfulness. By practicing mindfulness, I was able to stay present in the moment and focus on my daughter's needs and emotions. I learned to let go of my own anxieties and worries and to simply enjoy being with her. This allowed me to be more responsive to her needs and to connect with her on a deeper level.
Through this experience, I learned that being a dad is not about being perfect or having all the answers. It's about being present, showing love and compassion, and being there for your child no matter what. As a foster dad, I had to learn to be patient, flexible, and adaptable. I had to learn to embrace the challenges and find joy in the everyday moments.
Being a foster dad has also given me a new perspective on life. I've learned to appreciate the small things and to find joy in the everyday moments. I've learned to be more patient, compassionate, and understanding, both with my daughter, myself and with my wife. I've also learned that personal growth is an ongoing process and that being a dad is a journey that requires patience, dedication, and love.
In addition to relearning how to be a dad, becoming a foster parent also meant that I had to relearn how to be a husband. My wife and I had been married for several years before we became foster parents, and we were used to a certain dynamic in our relationship. But with the addition of a child in our lives, everything changed.
We had to learn how to be a team and to work together to provide the best possible care for our daughter. We had to communicate more openly and honestly, and we had to learn how to support each other through the ups and downs of parenting.
One of the biggest challenges we faced was learning how to navigate the complexities of the foster care system. There were times when we disagreed on the best course of action, but we always worked together to find a solution that was in the best interest of our daughter.
Through this experience, my wife and I have grown closer as a couple. We've learned to appreciate each other in new ways and to see each other as partners in parenting. We've also learned that it's okay to ask for help and support when we need it, whether it's from each other, our friends and family, or from professionals in the field.
Overall, becoming a foster parent has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. It has allowed me to grow as a person and a father, and to create a strong and loving family with my wife and daughter. If you're considering becoming a foster parent, know that it's not always easy, but it's definitely worth it. You'll have the opportunity to make a positive difference in a child's life and to grow and learn in ways you never thought possible, my family is here to help with your journey!!