“How can I possibly console my son?”
My son is 12 years old and is concerned about his penis size. I am at a complete loss for how to handle this situation and didn't think kids would be concerned with this at such a young age. What can I do?
7 Answers
As a young male growing up, especially in our society with such influence from social media and so forth, it might be hard for parents to talk to their children about the different parts of their body. This is a usual and very common thing that males go through. It might be best to have him talk to either a doctor or maybe an adult who is a male that he feels comfortable with.
Irene Yaymadjian, PsyD
Irene Yaymadjian, PsyD
As an adolescent conscious of body image and component part's, your son's behavior is understandable. If he has difficulty accepting what you have to say, you might take him to his pediatrician to discuss his concerns. He may be more receptive to the physician's explanation.
I recommend your son meet with his pediatrician who can inform him of normal penis size variation at his age and what physical changes he can expect as he continues to go through puberty into his teenage years. If this issue persists, he would also benefit from meeting with a mental health professional who can help him: 1) learn to challenge his irrational critical thoughts and replace them with rationale supportive alternatives; 2) increase his self esteem by helping him identify aspects about himself that he or other people value and that contribute far more to defining him than his penis size.
Hi,
One thing to remember when dealing with adolescents is to be "curious" and try not to be afraid of your sons concerns. Try to find out what is making him feel afraid. The concern he mentions may be connected to other concerns.
Hope this is helpful,
Claudia Oberweger
One thing to remember when dealing with adolescents is to be "curious" and try not to be afraid of your sons concerns. Try to find out what is making him feel afraid. The concern he mentions may be connected to other concerns.
Hope this is helpful,
Claudia Oberweger
Are you a father or mother? Either way why is he concerned? Who taught him there was anything wrong with his penis size? Discuss it. Many women prefer smaller penises, because they are not as painful. (Are you talking about how a penis is used in intercourse?) If you are a mother that's something to share. If you are a father, you can still share it and add that you believe your penis was that size when you were his age and that time may add size. Ultimately, the world cares what kind of man he becomes.
Let him know that woman don’t really care about the size of a persons penis and that woman want love and understanding over anything, and the children in school are not mature enough and hear little stories that are untrue.
Go to the following url and see penis size:
http://www.drgreene.com/qa/penis-size-defined
Read the info. Based on the reading, have a discussion with your son - may or may not be an issue.
http://www.drgreene.com/qa/penis-size-defined
Read the info. Based on the reading, have a discussion with your son - may or may not be an issue.
