Building on Healthy Communication in a Relationship! Tips to help you

Hi everyone well lets get into this Article are you ready buckle up lolAlright talking is fun when you are constantly gassing. But when that communication is wrapped in emotions and bringing up a topic could be like opening up Pandora's secret box. it ends up being a lot less fun and it can become hard and exhausting for all parties involved.SO WHY SHOULD WE COMMUNICATE EVEN THOUGH IT"S HARD?The elephant in the room becomes smaller and smaller You won't feel as though you have to walk on eggshells Even though it feels heavy to talk about emotions you actually end up feeling lighter because of it. Not communicating and harboring emotions is a recipe for disaster. It's a ticking time bomb for a relationship to breakdown and end.I'M SURE YOUR SAYING DEE, WE GET WHY, BUT HOW DO WE COMMUNICATE? Well everyone here are the Steps: : If you are wanting an open dialogue you have to limit judgement. : Let the other person speak without interrupting them *FULL DISCLOSURE* This is especially hard for me mainly if they are lieing on me. (No Bueno) : Try Not to personalize when you speak, Examples: Don't say "YOU" change your verbiage and say "When this happen it makes me feel like this" Not YOU do this wrong and this is your fault etc.. : Actively listen to what the other person is saying, repeat back to them what they said so they feel validated and understand you are completely invested in resolving the issues. : Wait for your turn to talk, it's communication not tennis or a word battle. Don't bat words at each other to no avail. : If things start to turn into an argument, then you each need to to step away from the situation collect your thoughts and emotions, then come back to the conversation on a cooler head and thought process. : Limit words like ALWAYS, and NEVER it's easy to say " you always act like this, you never listen to me"etc. But it takes away the times they did try and happened to slip up now. Remember it not helpful to remember people for their previous faults especially if they're trying to change and grow that shit isn't easy and it deserves validation even when your'e not getting along. : Remember that the reason you're communicating is to let the other person know your feelings or vice versa. communicating is about getting to the bottom of something or setting out on the right path together. Even if you don't want to be in the conversation or don't understand why your'e having it. If you partner feels its important to them its should be important to see why. : Remember its not about being right its about understanding the other person, gaining a little insight into their mind and feelings and you need to feel that's a privilege. Communicating is at the Core of every relationship. Relationships are built on trust and communication. Opening up to someone you trust, letting yourself be vulnerable and them being vulnerable with you is powerful and intimate, whether that's with a lover, friend, husband, wife, girlfriend, or boyfriend. : A lack of communication can lead to feelings of contempt, like you can't be honest or yourself. It can turn relationships toxic, create a lack of care & that person you used to be head over hills in love with can feel like a stranger. Yet a little conversation can turn it all around. Gaining understanding and clarity= Two people on the same page. : Sometimes you also needs words with actions to feel validated WE as human beings are insecure creatures that love a bit of verbal reassurance. That saying "actions speak louder than words" on a whole is true, but if you don't feel listened to and then out of the blue they do X, X, & Z it can feel confusing. The sweet spot is marrying the two together. Not picking one or the other.