Griselda M. Lloyd

Hello and thank you for reaching out. While this is a difficult time there is no easy answer or quick fix. Without knowing the details, I would suggest you and your wife sit down and discuss what is going on if it is possible. If it is too hard, I would suggest seeking marital therapy to discuss any concerns and to possibly work things out.

Treatment for OCD may not result in a cure, but it may help bring symptoms under control so that they do not take over your daily life. The two main treatments for OCD are psychotherapy and medications. The combination of both has been shown to be most effective.

Just a few questions for you to think about: When you lose your "cool," what happens? Do you become violent or verbally aggressive? If so, it is not recommended that you do. However, even if you do not, it would most likely be more beneficial if you each did your own program or counseling with the added couples sessions.

Treatment for OCD and related symptoms may not result in a cure. The symptoms most times can be controlled so that they don't rule your friend's daily life. He or she may need treatment for the rest of their lives. The two main treatments for OCD are psychotherapy and medications. Research suggests that the combination of medication and talk therapy may work best.

Hello, yes, I believe an individual with depression should seek help. I recommend that you speak to your primary care physician to rule out any medical reasons that you are struggling with depression and to discuss medication if needed. I would also recommend that you speak to a mental health professional of your choice. I know that every day is a struggle and as you said the mornings are hard for you. Please seek help.

Hello, there are a lot of known and researched alternative treatments for depression that are the traditional medication. I would talk to your primary care physician about your desire to take non-medical alternatives. But, here is a piece that is from the Mayo Clinic. Keep in mind that I am not a medical doctor and I am not recommending anything and before you try anything please speak to your PCM. This is just an informational link I do not have experience with these listed remedies.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/expert-answers/natural-remedies-for-depression/faq-20058026

Hello. Thank you for reaching out. To answer your question, I have to start by asking you a few questions. Have your gone to your doctor and shared your concerns with him about you crying every day to see if there is anything biologically going on that could explain your crying? If not, I would suggest you start by doing that. If you have, and there is no medical/biological reason it would not hurt to see a therapist or psychologist so you can explore what could be going on.

Hello, thank you for reaching out. I have a few questions for you to think about. 1. Is the counselling you are looking for to help you work and save the marriage? 2. Would the counselling be to help you make the decision to get divorced? 3. Do both you and your Husband want to save the marriage and are both going willingly and ready to work hard? 4. Do you have children and are wanting to seek counselling services so that you and your soon to be ex-husband are able to co-parent well. Whatever the answers are, be honest to yourselves on why you are wanting to go to counselling prior to getting divorced and make sure you are wanting the same thing. I have often found that some couples come in with two different end goals in mind.

Hello and thank you for reaching out. It is difficult to answer your question without knowing the details. But yes, talk therapy alongside with the proper medication and medication compliance has been proven to be effective.

If it gets really bad, there are several hotlines you can call and ask for help such as:

1. https://www.crisistextline.org/depression?gclid=Cj0KCQjw4fHkBRDcARIsACV58_FNYhM21rno0UrUBMyzmGjVsl4c6Uq3k9aHAUY3zhk8986z7Weh0tQaAtuuEALw_wcB
2. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
3. 800-273-8255

Please reach out for help. It is hard right now, but with the help of your family, friends, and professionals, you can get past this.

Hello and thank you for reaching to get answers about your sister. It is really hard to say why your sister gets so angry and why it has been getting worse. Most times medication will not help if there are underlying reasons. Yes, I would suggest your sister see a counselor. It does not have to be a psychologist. There are also Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Professional Counselors, Licensed Clinical Social Workers. They are all therapists with different was of treating various mental health issues. If your sister is interested she or both of you can look into the various choices and make an informed decision.

Hello and my condolences to you for the loss of your Mother. The bereavement process is different for everyone. Most people do not “get over” the loss of a loved one within a few months. They begin to heal through the passage of time, if they have a good support system. Sometimes it can take several months and a year to come to terms with the passing. Most importantly, it is good to know that there is not a “normal” amount of time that it takes. There are a lot of feelings that come-up, so there are many benefits in seeing a therapist to help you process the loss of your Mother. Therapists are trained to help an individual that is grieving to better handle the fear, guilt or anxiety that can be associated with the death of a loved one. If you are not ready to talk with a therapist, you may want to consider a Grief and Loss support group.

Hello and thank you for reaching out. Every psychologist or therapist is different so there really is no set way to prepare to speak to someone about your depression. A few questions you may want to ask your self: 1. How long have you had depression and why are you know seeking help? 2. What are you wanting to get out of your sessions? Therapy is an ongoing process so if you do not get a chance to say everything you want to you will get your chance.

If it gets really bad, there are several hotlines you can call and ask for help such as:

1. https://www.crisistextline.org/depression?gclid=Cj0KCQjw4fHkBRDcARIsACV58_FNYhM21rno0UrUBMyzmGjVsl4c6Uq3k9aHAUY3zhk8986z7Weh0tQaAtuuEALw_wcB
2. https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
3. 800-273-8255

Please reach out for help. It is hard right now, but with the help of your family, friends, and professionals, you can get past this.

Hello,

Follow this link and it will answer your question:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/generalized-anxiety-disorder

Hello, this is a complex question as there are a lot of things to consider when going to couples’ therapy. To answer your question, there is research that suggests that Behavioral Couples Therapy is effective. However, I am not sure what you mean by “behavior therapy.” The success of therapy is dependent on how you rate your feelings about your therapist (the therapeutic relationship), how you rate your sense of progress during therapy, and if both members of the couple are willing and wanting to go and put in the hard work. You also should ask yourself, “What are my expectations for therapy?” Therapy is not a guaranty that it will make everything better.

Hello and my condolences to your friend for the loss of his father. The bereavement process is different for everyone and they use their personal coping mechanisms. Most people do not “get over” the loss of a loved one within a few months. They begin to heal through the passage of time, if they have a good support system. Sometimes it can take several months and a year to come to terms with the passing. Most importantly, it is good to know that there is not a “normal” amount of time that it takes. There are a lot of feelings that come-up, so your friend may benefit from seeing a therapist to help him process the loss of his father. Therapists are trained to help and individual that is grieving to better handle the fear, guilt or anxiety that can be associated with the death of a loved one. If he is not ready to talk with a therapist, he may want to consider a Grief and Loss support group.

Hello and thank you for reaching out. Going through a divorce is often hard for the soon to be ex-spouses and children, it is very understandable that you want your child to understand why you are getting the divorce and what that will mean to your family. Your child is not too young, but I would suggest that you and your spouse have a conversation about what you want your child to know. If that is not a good idea, then talk to your therapist while your spouse is there, and tell them what you are thinking. Ask them if it would be possible for them to facilitate a session and tell them what the purpose of the session is. Having this discussion with your therapist and spouse prior to having a session with your 7-year old will help everyone.

You can also start talking to your child about the divorce if you have not already done so. A few things to keep in mind are:

1. Keep things simple and straight-forward. Do not share too much information. They do not need to know all the details.
2. Reassure them that the divorce is not their fault.
3. Let them know that everyone may be sad and it is ok.
4. Let them know that you both still love them and will always be their parents.

Be alert to your child's signs of distress. At times children may become more aggressive, uncooperative, and withdraw. Behavioural and school problems are common as well.

Most of all, your 7-year will do best if they know they are loved and that you and your ex-spouse will still be their parents.

Hello thank you for reaching out. My condolences to your grandmother and family for the loss of your grandfather. Yes, there is evidence to support the combination of talk therapy and the use of anti-depressants is more effect than the use of anti-depressants alone. If your grandmother is willing, she can always schedule a consultation to see if it is something she is wanting to do.

Hello, this time of the school year can be very stressful. If you feel like you need to speak to someone and you have the school counseling center available to you as an option I would suggest trying it out. It may feel weird because it is on campus. However, they have a ethical and legal guidelines that they are required to follow. Meaning most of what you tell them is confidential with the exception of the required mandated reporting: Child Abuse/Neglect and Elder Abuse. They may also break confidential for Harm to self and others. If you still feel uncomfortable about going there I would suggest looking for a therapist so that you are able to get your stress level under control. You can always call around check prices, or if you have insurance check to see if they are in network. Please email me if you have any more questions or concerns.

Hello, thank your for reaching out. Yes, I have heard of Talkspace. I have several concerns regarding therapy being conducted strictly online or via an app. My concerns are based on patient/client safety. Should a patient/client become emotionally deregulated what measures are put in place for their protection. So, let's say you are in need of talking to someone, get them on the app, and you lose connection and are not able to access them again because of your lack of cell connection. How will you feel about that? How will you get the help you need to get you to a place were you are emotionally well again? I can see were the app will help several people that are located in places were mental health services are lacking, like a rural area. However, I would ask you to first do more research to see if it is something you want to do. Research states the top predictor of effective therapy is the relationship and individual develops with their therapist. Will you have the same therapist all the time? Or will you be passed on to the first available one? Also, look in your area to see if you can find a clinic or a therapist that has sliding scale/low fee services. I am sure there is something around for you. Either way, please research and ask yourself, "Do I want the personal individual face-to-face contact or if you are ok with the online world?"
Good luck!!