“How to repair relationships ruined by addiction?”

Before trying to repair your relationship/marriage I recommend that you work on fixing YOU. Specifically lying to your wife and others. This is because people who do this are those who lie to themselves first! I would strongly suggest you enter into treatment whose main focus is that of self-honesty. As you do this you can concurrently work on extending this behavior to significant others in an attempt to build trust. A new philosophy of less self-absorption, common in addiction, should be replaced with effective, HONEST and transparent communication, sincerity, and humility. Have people believe that they are more important and valued than whatever you are addicted to. The symptoms, as you know, of deception, are a mainstay in addiction and the wants and needs of others are often sadly overlooked. You can concurrently work on this with your wife in marriage counseling.

First step is becoming sober. Then marriage counseling is a very good idea. It takes a lot of time and work to rebuild relationships.

Repairing a marriage after you've spent a while "married" to opioids is tough. Many addicts are abusive, spend money the family doesn't have, sleep around, wind up seriously ill, lie through their teeth, and/or are generally highly undesirable partners. How do you fix this? First, get sober. Second, stay sober for at least a year. Often (but not always), you can repair your marriage by becoming truthful and dependable.

Abstinence-based recovery from opioids is possible but usually quite difficult unless your addiction was mild. So many addicts require Suboxone or other brand of buprenorphine-based treatment. This can be hard to find, because a) doctors often believe INCORRECTLY that Suboxone is itself addicting and b) family members frequently revolt. But the science is clear: if you stay on Suboxone or a similar medication long enough, you're likely to get sober and stay sober while taking the medication. But you're committing to many years of maintenance with Suboxone. Detox alone is a prescription for failure. Yes, you'll meet opioid addicts who got sober through abstinence. But you can't talk to all the folks who relapsed and died of an overdose.

Well you've done the most important part, and that’s the most important step. Now you need to get into counseling for yourself. And DO NOT STOP! And over time she may come around. But drop the addiction eve if you have to go into rehab.

Best of luck,

Dr. Aaron

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