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I need sex everyday but my husband doesn’t feel the need. What's wrong with me?

I want to have sex everyday but my husband doesn’t feel the same need. I feel like he's just not into me any more, and it's making me feel really self-conscious. Do you think something is wrong with me?

3 Answers

When you note that you require sexuality on a daily basis, my best suspicion is that you find, through sexuality, comfort, acceptance, feeling close. Because he may not have sex with you every day is not necessarily a demonstration that he is not in love with you.
Hi,

It can be upsetting to be on a different page from your spouse, but it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you! In fact, it's very normal to be on separate pages when it comes to your sex life and other things because you are two different people. Whenever a partner is on a separate page, I encourage them to state their position clearly and then listen respectively to their partner's position. If that has been done (and not assumed!), then the next move is a compromise. Realize that no one is right and no one is wrong, but now
together you have a problem to solve. Something like: "Hmm, since we have different needs, how are we going to work this out." That could take the form of more sex one week and less the next or more sex on the weekends and less during the week, etc.

Dr. Dabney
There is not necessarily anything wrong with you, unless you are equating your desirability as a person to your husbands sexual desire for you. It is not uncommon for a married couple to have different sexual needs, and a good marital relationship has be based on more than sex.