“My daughter says one of her friends is being hit by her parents. What should I do?”

Thank you for reaching out. Under no circumstances is violence acceptable. I view your daughter as a credible witness and sometimes nice people behave inappropriately. I would talk to them and look for any signs of injury and your daughter. Her wellbeing is paramount to everything else. I probably would be reticent to have her play over there again if unsupervised. I would have her invite her friends over to your place and look for any signs of harm to their child.

Hello,
This is a very 'sticky' situation. It really depends on how severe the 'hitting' behavior is. Are there marks/bruises left or is the hitting 'legal' meaning being hit with an open hand and not with an object. If its a situation that you feel the minor is at risk for serious injury you can file a CPS /DCF report anonymously to protect your identity, however your identity can become known if the situation lands in a court case. It seems like you and your daughter have a nice relationship and open communication, your daughter could encourage her friend to tell a trusting adult at school for increased opportunity to investigate. If you feel that its best to say something be mindful of what that can do to the relationship with the parents and even so the relationship with your daughter and her friend, but I do condone safety over anything, even if it means some consequences. I hope this was helpful and things get better.

If you are told something that involves any level of abuse for a vulnerable adult, you need to strongly consider reporting this to your local CPS entity to aid the child and the system will work to provide this family support to keep the home safe.

Yes, I think that you should report it. They might seem like lovely people in public but you never know what others are like behind closed doors. In Kansas, all residents are mandated reporters, not just those that work with children. You can report this and remain anonymous in the report. Think of it this way too: this might be what this family needs, a wake up call. CPS can help them get into parenting classes and gain the skills that they need to be better at parenting. I would suggest "love and Logic" by Jim Faye.

Talk to the school counselor about what your daughter told you and let them handle the situation. Investigations will only occur if necessary.

Hello, I would report it to proper authorities (child protective services) anonymously.

Start with the school social worker. she can discretely investigate the situation. If your the social worker sees signs of beating: i.e. bruises, acute fear reaction to loud noises or other signs that indicate an exagerated response to unexpected quick movement around her. When I was a school social worker if a child came to school with welts on their body or a hand print still visible on their body one reported the situation to Child Protective Services or DCFS, Department of child and family services.

It’s definitely a tough situation and not an easy one to answer, especially when children are involved. The one thing you will ask yourself is what is the priority here. The first thing is safety. Is the child safe? Based on what your daughter shared, it doesn’t sound like it. Your job is not to investigate, so, yes, you can notify child protective services. Even though you are not considered a mandate reporter, you can still report what your daughter shared. Once it is reported, it's up to CPS to take the report and follow up. When they follow up, they do not share with the parents who made the report in order to keep the anonymity of the situation. It was very brave of your daughter to share about her friend to her.