“After my divorce, my daughter won't speak to me. What should I do?”
My daughter has not spoken to me since my divorce... almost like she's mad at me. We didn't sit down and tell her why we divorced. But since it, I've noticed that she's barely home and gives me one-word answers when she does have to speak to me. I want to help her understand what's happening. What should I do?
1 Answer
During and after divorce, it is best for parents to sit down with their child and explain that Mommy and Daddy are going to live separately due to grown up issues. It is important for children to know that both parents still love the child and that the divorce is not the result of the child or the child’s behavior. Despite the child’s age, many children find ways to blame themselves for their parents' separation, resulting in poor self esteem, depression, or anger. The number one rule for divorced parents is to not speak poorly of your ex in front of your child. Supporting the child will vary depending on the developmental stage and personality of the child. However, if your child is acting differently or not communicating, it is best to bring them to a counselor. If therapy is not an option, try talking to the school social worker to check in on your child; these professionals can often offer the best solutions after meeting your individual child and knowing the resources in your community.
