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I'm concerned about my emotions?

I'm a 77 year old man and it seems the older I get, the more emotional I get. If I see a heartwarming situation, a person helping another person who is in need, a child singing a song, puppies most any act of kindness or reminisce about my departed family, my eyes water, and sometimes it causes me to openly weep out loud. I try hard to stifle it from everyone but it's difficult to control.

Male | 77 years old
Complaint duration: several years
Medications: Allopurinol 300 mg, Solifenacin 10 mg, Omeprazole 40 mg
Conditions: nothing major. ...gout, borderline cholestrol

7 Answers

Hello Sir, 

Sorry to hear that your empathy is at times uncontrollable. I do not know whether the meds you are on have any side effects that lead to being overly and overtly emotional. You will need to check with the prescribing Drs. In the meantime, you may want to get Elaine N. Aron's "The Highly Sensitive person: How to thrive when the World Overwhelms you." You may also want to go to a licensed Psychologist and learn some coping skills. 
Take care and remain safe. 

Dr. Lata Sonpal
Experiencing emotion is not necessarily a bad thing. It seems like the movie scene, songs are triggering fond memories of loved ones. I would connect with the memories and perhaps journal about them or write your memoir.

This is a very important topic that not everyone is open to discussing. I’m so happy that you felt safe enough to actually ask this question. When we look at humans typically the older they get the more meaning they find and things that they were unable to see when they were younger. The older we get the softer we become both emotionally and mentally. This is sometimes looked at as a sign of weakness in some cultures however when we look at the human being himself it is absolutely appropriate to become softer and find different meaning in things that might not have really affected us in the past. If you’re in your 70s an existential feeling may come upon you especially during the time we live in now, you may be thinking about the world that you grew up in compared to what you are living in currently. Let yourself cry… It’s OK. This is a very normal and appropriate response. But I would highly recommend that you find a therapist that you can just simply discuss these feelings and thoughts with. You might come to find out things about yourself that you were never aware of or we’re just not ready to admit. I hope this helps.

Warmly,
Dr. Irene
I see being in touch with your emotions as a good thing. Men are unfortunately socialized to suppress their feelings while women are allowed to have and express them. Maybe you are not just getting older, but are also getting better. My only concern would be if you are only reacting to sad experiences. In that case, I would be concerned that you are depressed and would recommend that you meet with a psychologist or other mental health professional for a consultation.

Dr. Marlene Kasman
 
As long as you have been to a Dr and don't have dementia or a chemical imbalance, my advice is to welcome the new you. I know it seems weak or silly to you but I promise no one else sees you that way and they probably appreciate the soft side you hid for so long.
Hello,

I don’t know if there is any general understanding of this phenomenon, but it is very common. It seems to be a form of ‘disinhibition’ that comes with older age, more common with men than women. Perhaps women were not so inhibited about showing their soft emotions! Of course, in another 20 years when more working feminists reach your age, perhaps they too will have inhibited their tears...
At any rate, remember Rosie Greer - “It’s all right to cry...” and go right ahead.

Peace,
Dr. Marian Shapiro
Check this link out for some insight into your question:
https://www.healthline.com/health/why-am-i-so-emotional-2